I am asked all the time if couples therapy is effective, I respond easily, ‘ Most definitely!’ However, at least two ingredients must be present. 1) The person providing the help must understand how … [Read more...] about Is Couples Therapy Effective?
The length of time people spend in therapy has to do with how well they learn new habits. People call me regularly to ask how long it takes. The question is, "what are you trying to make happen?" … [Read more...] about What Determines the Length of Therapy?
Are You Wondering If Couples Counseling Can Help Your Relationship? Couples Counseling helps couples talk to each other in ways that promote couples to have conversations rather than arguments. When … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help With?
You know that you need marriage counseling when the fighting continues with no resolution. When one or both partners criticize, or one or both parties withdraw into silence, thus stopping the … [Read more...] about What Are The Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling?
I have just returned from 3 glorious weeks in New Zealand where, as usual when I travel, I have been studying the culture. I asked the questions there that I typically ask wherever I am: What is the … [Read more...] about What Is The Best Way To Avoid Divorce?
People call me to ask for help to save or improve their marriages. That, then is my job. I am teaching people HOW to make it work, not how to throw in the towel. If couples have no children and … [Read more...] about Do Couples Therapists Ever Suggest Divorce?
How Do People Know If They Need Marriage Counseling? Most importantly, when there are problems that you can’t resolve. One member of a couple often calls me to say, “we fight all the time”. That is a … [Read more...] about Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling
People call me all the time to ask what to do about their partner— “how can I make Him or Her change? Of course, no one can make someone else change. We can only change ourselves. However, if we … [Read more...] about How Does Change In Couples Happen?
Traditional psychology has believed since time began that problems exist within individuals. This DSM descriptions of mental problems is built on this theory. However, with the rise of the « Systems » … [Read more...] about How Does Marriage Counseling Help Communication?
Whether therapy works or not is like posing the question, does medicine work? I would see that as “ what medicine are you picking?” And “for what purpose?” I explain to people who call me, in answer … [Read more...] about Whether therapy works or not is like posing the question, does medicine work?