People often get locked into frustrating relationships. They can be untangled— even by one person, if the source of the frustration can be identified. I explain to my couples clients … [Read more...] about Are You in a Relationship That Frustrates You?
I do not necessarily believe that counseling with couples before marriage is for the purpose of advising them as to whether they should marry or not. Sometimes couples present with infidelity on one … [Read more...] about Why Should Couples Get Counseling Before Marriage?
Premarital counseling may be simply a formality for the purpose of getting permission from the clergy performing the ceremony or it may be for real prevention and relational education. The first goal … [Read more...] about What Are the Goals and Benefits of Pre-marital Counseling?
Most of the couples who call me for help are wanting better ways to talk to each other. The presenting problem is, "we fight all the time". That one is easy. People who fight all the time are … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help?
Many people believe that marriage is about loving. They ask themselves, "am I still in love with my partner?", if the answer comes back in the negative, a divorce may be in the making. In fact, … [Read more...] about Can My Marriage Be Saved? I say YES!!!!
Ed Friedman, a family therapist and well known religious leader, now deceased, was known to say, the people who date and the people who marry bear no resemblance to each other. The best it is going to … [Read more...] about When Couples Keep Fighting Before Marriage. Is It Still A Good Idea To Get Married?
I am asked all the time if couples therapy is effective, I respond easily, ‘ Most definitely!’ However, at least two ingredients must be present. 1) The person providing the help must understand how … [Read more...] about Is Couples Therapy Effective?
Are You Wondering If Couples Counseling Can Help Your Relationship? Couples Counseling helps couples talk to each other in ways that promote couples to have conversations rather than arguments. When … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help With?
People call me to ask for help to save or improve their marriages. That, then is my job. I am teaching people HOW to make it work, not how to throw in the towel. If couples have no children and … [Read more...] about Do Couples Therapists Ever Suggest Divorce?
People call me all the time to ask what to do about their partner— “how can I make Him or Her change? Of course, no one can make someone else change. We can only change ourselves. However, if we … [Read more...] about How Does Change In Couples Happen?