People often get locked into frustrating relationships. They can be untangled— even by one person, if the source of the frustration can be identified. I explain to my couples clients … [Read more...] about Are You in a Relationship That Frustrates You?
I just received a call from a woman seeking “marriage counseling.” I asked, as I always do, “how did you decide to call me”? She responded as many people do. “I’m just going down the list to see who … [Read more...] about What Does Marriage Counseling Consist Of?
I do not necessarily believe that counseling with couples before marriage is for the purpose of advising them as to whether they should marry or not. Sometimes couples present with infidelity on one … [Read more...] about Why Should Couples Get Counseling Before Marriage?
Premarital counseling may be simply a formality for the purpose of getting permission from the clergy performing the ceremony or it may be for real prevention and relational education. The first goal … [Read more...] about What Are the Goals and Benefits of Pre-marital Counseling?
Most of the couples who call me for help are wanting better ways to talk to each other. The presenting problem is, "we fight all the time". That one is easy. People who fight all the time are … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help?
I am asked all the time what the success rate in my office is when the presenting problem is infidelity. The answer is 100 percent. It is also 100 percent for the other problems that people bring. … [Read more...] about How To Repair a Marriage After Infidelity
Sometimes people call me to ask for marriage counseling and explain that their partner is not interested in help or in saving the marriage. Often these people have children who are still at home. How … [Read more...] about How To Save A Marriage If Only One Is Trying
Many people believe that marriage is about loving. They ask themselves, "am I still in love with my partner?", if the answer comes back in the negative, a divorce may be in the making. In fact, … [Read more...] about Can My Marriage Be Saved? I say YES!!!!
Ed Friedman, a family therapist and well known religious leader, now deceased, was known to say, the people who date and the people who marry bear no resemblance to each other. The best it is going to … [Read more...] about When Couples Keep Fighting Before Marriage. Is It Still A Good Idea To Get Married?
I am asked all the time if couples therapy is effective, I respond easily, ‘ Most definitely!’ However, at least two ingredients must be present. 1) The person providing the help must understand how … [Read more...] about Is Couples Therapy Effective?