Most of the couples who call me for help are wanting better ways to talk to each other. The presenting problem is, "we fight all the time". That one is easy. People who fight all the time are fighting … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help?
I am asked all the time what the success rate in my office is when the presenting problem is infidelity. The answer is 100 percent. It is also 100 percent for the other problems that people bring. How … [Read more...] about How To Repair a Marriage After Infidelity
Sometimes people call me to ask for marriage counseling and explain that their partner is not interested in help or in saving the marriage. Often these people have children who are still at home. How … [Read more...] about How To Save A Marriage If Only One Is Trying
Many people believe that marriage is about loving. They ask themselves, "am I still in love with my partner?", if the answer comes back in the negative, a divorce may be in the making. In fact, … [Read more...] about Can My Marriage Be Saved? I say YES!!!!
Ed Friedman, a family therapist and well known religious leader, now deceased, was known to say, the people who date and the people who marry bear no resemblance to each other. The best it is going to … [Read more...] about When Couples Keep Fighting Before Marriage. Is It Still A Good Idea To Get Married?
I am asked all the time if couples therapy is effective, I respond easily, ‘ Most definitely!’ However, at least two ingredients must be present. 1) The person providing the help must understand how … [Read more...] about Is Couples Therapy Effective?
The length of time people spend in therapy has to do with how well they learn new habits. People call me regularly to ask how long it takes. The question is, "what are you trying to make happen?" And … [Read more...] about What Determines the Length of Therapy?
Are You Wondering If Couples Counseling Can Help Your Relationship? Couples Counseling helps couples talk to each other in ways that promote couples to have conversations rather than arguments. When … [Read more...] about What Does Couples Counseling Help With?
You know that you need marriage counseling when the fighting continues with no resolution. When one or both partners criticize, or one or both parties withdraw into silence, thus stopping the … [Read more...] about What Are The Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling?
I have just returned from 3 glorious weeks in New Zealand where, as usual when I travel, I have been studying the culture. I asked the questions there that I typically ask wherever I am: What is … [Read more...] about What Is The Best Way To Avoid Divorce?