Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

The objective of this article is to acquaint parents with the special hazards of tension for children that accompany divorce and some solutions for dealing with it.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

Summary: Divorce causes much tension for children and fears of abandonment that parents, caught in the heat and misery of their own divorce, often miss. Continue reading

Developing New Relationships

You may be deciding to develop friendships because you have moved or your life has shifted. You may be newly single and feeling awkward after a lifetime that has followed a predictable pattern.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Developing New Relationships

Whatever the case, you can be successful at building new relationships if you remember that people don’t fall “in love” or “in like” with other people. Continue reading

I’m Lonesome | Here is My Answer

It has become increasingly difficult to meet people.  This is particularly true for the part of the population who is looking for a significant other.

Men and women tell me all the time that they would like to be in a significant relationship. Possibly that they would like to marry and possibly have children.  However, society has changed so much that they don’t know how to go about it.

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How To Tell Children About A Divorce

It is important not to discuss divorce plans with children until the ultimate decision is reached. This means the break-up of their family and is usually a very difficult time.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

How To Tell Children About A Divorce

The news should be broken with BOTH parents present. The news should occur a few weeks before the separation if possible so there is some advance warning. Continue reading

What Makes Marriage Work?

People ask me all the time, “What makes marriage work?” What if I stop loving him/her?

What clearly does NOT make marriage work is believing that one must be in love all the time to make the marriage work. People who believe that love is the key ingredient are romantics, They are in love with love and the minute that they don’t detect the “love” feeling they believe it is time to go–and they do.

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How To Select The Best Marriage Counselor

Good marriage counseling is about teaching couples how to negotiate in order to accomplish getting their needs met.  Teaching good skills for marriage is not about what is right or wrong but about what works!

Marriage Counseling Should Be Balanced!

I have been married for 41 years (that means I was two when I started). I have a live laboratory in my home for knowing what works and what doesn’t. I am always thinking about how to pass along effective means of interacting. The best marriage counseling teaches couples how to talk to each other constructively . The couples therapist is the model for this. The therapy must be what I call ”clean”.  That means the therapy needs to demonstrate the skills the therapist is teaching.  For example listening with respect means that the therapist does so as well. Hearing what is asked needs to be part of the couples therapy as well. Continue reading

Drugs That Suppress the Central Nervous System-Sedatives

The objective of this article is to point out what drugs are considered sedative, their effects and dangers.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed. 

Drugs That Suppress the Central Nervous System-Sedatives

Summary: Some sedatives are used legitimately for sleep and for anxiety reduction. However, many people use “downers” when they take “uppers” in order to come down from the highs generated by the stimulant drugs. Continue reading

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