Why Are Men So Sensitive To Female Anger?

Women ask me all the time,”why does my husband get so defensive when I get mad at him?”

To begin with, I don’t find anger to be a very useful emotion to be used with anyone. Possibly at times with strangers to get their attention but anger is scary for people and when you sound angry the real message gets lost.

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Universal Truths

I have developed my Universal Truths over my 33 years of practice. See which ones you are using!

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

  1. Universal Truths By: Susan AdamsThe world is unfair but predictable.  Success means being aware of how things appear to others.
  2. Even if you feel so unimportant you think you are invisible, others notice you.
  3. People who don’t know when they do wrong, can’t learn to do anything right.
  4. People who know when they do something wrong develop mastery. Continue reading

Anger in Infidelity – But Don’t I Have a Right to My Anger?

Recently a woman contacted me about her husband’s infidelity. They had been doing prior work with a female therapist who encouraged her anger. She told the husband that his wife was understandably angry and he must be patient as she spewed it out.

Frankly, I found this to be very bad advice. Apparently, the couple did as well and fortunately left this experience. I have found over the years that people usually know when an experience is working badly and they leave it. Continue reading

Relationship Problems And What Do You Do?

People call me all the time asking me, “where are you located” or even first, “how much do you charge?”

Both questions are important. However, the MOST important question often isn’t asked which is “how can you help me”?

The first two questions imply that all therapy is the same and all therapists are the same. This could not be further from the truth.

There are many people in all kinds of professions who use buzz words to describe what they do while, in fact, not doing that manner of work at all.

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How Can I Ever Trust Him/Her Again After Infidelity?

People call me all the time to ask me: “My husband/wife has been unfaithful. How can I stay in the relationship after such a betrayal? I can never trust my partner again.”

There is definitely a life after infidelity.  According to Dr. Frank Pittman (with whom I worked closely for twenty eight years), “Men cheat when they don’t feel man enough.”  He goes on to say  in  both Private Lies and Man Enough,  that a man’s infidelity is between himself and his father.”  How so, one might say.  It is the fault of the marriage.

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Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

The objective of this article is to acquaint parents with the special hazards of tension for children that accompany divorce and some solutions for dealing with it.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

Summary: Divorce causes much tension for children and fears of abandonment that parents, caught in the heat and misery of their own divorce, often miss. Continue reading

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