Clicky

Blog Page | Marriage Counseling | Couples Counselor | Couples Therapists | Marriage Counselors

Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling

How Do People Know If They Need Marriage Counseling?

Most importantly, when there are problems that you can’t resolve.

One member of a couple often calls me to say, “we fight all the time”.  That is a sure signs that the couple is trying to win at something rather than negotiating an outcome. They don’t seem to know how to have the conversation rather than have the fight. They need help to learn new strategies.

Continue reading

How Does Change In Couples Happen?

People call me all the time to ask what to do about their partner— “how can I make Him or Her change?  Of course, no one can make someone else change. We can only change  ourselves. However, if we change something about ourselves it changes everything.  To effect change in a partner, we must change ourselves!

Continue reading

How Does Marriage Counseling Help Communication?

Traditional psychology has believed since time began that problems exist within individuals. This DSM descriptions of mental problems is built on this theory.

However, with the rise of the « Systems » movement which began in the early 50’s., problems are more popularly seen as existing BETWEEN people or in relationships rather than within individuals.

Continue reading

Why Are Men So Sensitive To Female Anger?

Women ask me all the time,”why does my husband get so defensive when I get mad at him?”

To begin with, I don’t find anger to be a very useful emotion to be used with anyone. Possibly at times with strangers to get their attention but anger is scary for people and when you sound angry the real message gets lost.

Continue reading

Universal Truths

I have developed my Universal Truths over my 33 years of practice. See which ones you are using!

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

  1. Universal Truths By: Susan AdamsThe world is unfair but predictable.  Success means being aware of how things appear to others.
  2. Even if you feel so unimportant you think you are invisible, others notice you.
  3. People who don’t know when they do wrong, can’t learn to do anything right.
  4. People who know when they do something wrong develop mastery. Continue reading

Anger in Infidelity – But Don’t I Have a Right to My Anger?

Recently a woman contacted me about her husband’s infidelity. They had been doing prior work with a female therapist who encouraged her anger. She told the husband that his wife was understandably angry and he must be patient as she spewed it out.

Frankly, I found this to be very bad advice. Apparently, the couple did as well and fortunately left this experience. I have found over the years that people usually know when an experience is working badly and they leave it. Continue reading

1 2 3 13

Atlanta Therapist Verified by Psychology Today