Women ask me all the time,”why does my husband get so defensive when I get mad at him?”
To begin with, I don’t find anger to be a very useful emotion to be used with anyone. Possibly at times with strangers to get their attention but anger is scary for people and when you sound angry the real message gets lost.
I have developed my Universal Truths over my 33 years of practice. See which ones you are using!
By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
The world is unfair but predictable. Success means being aware of how things appear to others.By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
Did you know that there are only two ways to build your own self-esteem? One is by being listened to with respect. The other is by doing things about which you feel good.
One of the best ways that I know to feel good about ourselves is by doing things to . Continue reading
Recently a woman contacted me about her husband’s infidelity. They had been doing prior work with a female therapist who encouraged her anger. She told the husband that his wife was understandably angry and he must be patient as she spewed it out.
Frankly, I found this to be very bad advice. Apparently, the couple did as well and fortunately left this experience. I have found over the years that people usually know when an experience is working badly and they leave it. Continue reading
The objective of this article is to explain the nature of depression and its treatment.
By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
People call me all the time asking me, “where are you located” or even first, “how much do you charge?”
Both questions are important. However, the MOST important question often isn’t asked which is “how can you help me”?
The first two questions imply that all therapy is the same and all therapists are the same. This could not be further from the truth.
There are many people in all kinds of professions who use buzz words to describe what they do while, in fact, not doing that manner of work at all.
By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
You may be one of those people who has a hard time asking others to do anything. You may also have a hard time saying “no” if asked by someone else to do something. Continue reading
People call me all the time to ask me: “My husband/wife has been unfaithful. How can I stay in the relationship after such a betrayal? I can never trust my partner again.”
There is definitely a life after infidelity. According to Dr. Frank Pittman (with whom I worked closely for twenty eight years), “Men cheat when they don’t feel man enough.” He goes on to say in both Private Lies and Man Enough, that a man’s infidelity is between himself and his father.” How so, one might say. It is the fault of the marriage.
The objective of this article is to acquaint parents with the special hazards of tension for children that accompany divorce and some solutions for dealing with it.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Summary: Divorce causes much tension for children and fears of abandonment that parents, caught in the heat and misery of their own divorce, often miss. Continue reading
The objective of this article is to identify some of the issues that can create depression in post divorce adjustment and methods to ameliorate it.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Summary: A major issue in post divorce adjustment relates to the support system. Continue reading
