Family members don’t have to be a part of the problem when someone is having difficulty, but they are often part of the solution.
The work I do is solution-focused. No one ever leaves my office, even the first time, without some ideas as to how to begin to solve whatever problem brought them to see me.
Married for over forty years, I have my own live laboratory as to what works and what is less likely to work in marriage.
I also have had it proven to me that marriage is a set of skills and not about being “in love” or “not in love”.
Many people believe that there is no return from infidelity but I do not find this to be the case.
Unlike a broken egg, things can be put back together. Most people are surprised and pleased with the outcome.
Some People Self-medicate!
Many people know about antidepressants. However, did you know that there are some non-medical ways to treat this problem that work quite well.
Everybody feels anger. The question becomes to what intensity and what you can do about it.
It is useful to learn to separate what we feel from what we do. This is part of being an adult.
Sometimes people arrive in therapy too late to save the marriage.
What is important is that people learn the skills to stay together-not to live in misery, but to live lives that contain joy and commitment that make good models for children to follow.
I was the advisor to the Stepfamily Association of Atlanta while it was here. This lasted several years.
I live in a stepfamily so I know how hard it can be and have been very effective at helping people in stepfamilies to straighten things out.
It can be painful and heartbreaking to watch a loved one decline.
The alternatives of sudden loss may, in some ways, be easier on the survivors but the shock waves of sudden loss are equally tragic.
Often in our busy world, it is difficult to be a consistent team when raising children.
When parents disagree about how to deal with children, the parents wind up fighting while the children go off to do as they please.
Coupling and parenting can become irresponsible.
Drugs and alcohol interfere with everyone’s relationships when either or both are present in families–alcohol in excess and drugs at all.
I think this word gets over-used without explicit understanding of “how” to say “what” to “whom”.
I am teaching people who see me the “foreign language” of how to speak to each other in ways that promote conversation instead of shutting it down.
A company can save money if they know how to read people!
Did you know that the configuration of relationships in a family is very much like the configuration of relationships in a company. They are both “systems”.