Marriage

Marriage is a part of most Americans. Learning how to be married takes practice and acquired tools. I hope these articles help you and your partner.

What Makes Marriage Work?

People ask me all the time, “What makes marriage work?” What if I stop loving him/her?

What clearly does NOT make marriage work is believing that one must be in love all the time to make the marriage work. People who believe that love is the key ingredient are romantics, They are in love with love and the minute that they don’t detect the “love” feeling they believe it is time to go–and they do.

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How To Select The Best Marriage Counselor

Good marriage counseling is about teaching couples how to negotiate in order to accomplish getting their needs met.  Teaching good skills for marriage is not about what is right or wrong but about what works!

Marriage Counseling Should Be Balanced!

I have been married for 41 years (that means I was two when I started). I have a live laboratory in my home for knowing what works and what doesn’t. I am always thinking about how to pass along effective means of interacting. The best marriage counseling teaches couples how to talk to each other constructively . The couples therapist is the model for this. The therapy must be what I call ”clean”.  That means the therapy needs to demonstrate the skills the therapist is teaching.  For example listening with respect means that the therapist does so as well. Hearing what is asked needs to be part of the couples therapy as well. Continue reading

The Art of Feeling Married

The objective of this article is to point out some of the pitfalls involved in the breakup of marriages.

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

The Art of Feeling Married

Summary: Back several generations the most important value in marriage was staying together. Continue reading

Special Concerns for Dating Couples Approaching Marriage

The objective of this article is to outline the issues that create the most anxiety in couples considering marriage.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Special Concerns for Dating Couples Approaching Marriage

Summary: What are the subjects on which communication is especially difficult for couples approaching marriage? There are several that can present major problems. Continue reading

The Practical Marital Quiz

 

Practical Marital Quiz

    1. There is the Right person out there for everyone.

      (no-marriage is based on a skill set between two people. Arranged marriages work well when the partners practice the skills of good marriages.)

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An After Effect of Sexual or Physical Abuse

The objective of this article is to help those who have experienced some kind of physical or sexual abuse to use some concrete tools for speaking up for themselves.

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

An After Effect of Sexual or Physical Abuse

Many people who have experienced some form of child sexual or physical abuse have learned that it is dangerous to speak up for what they want. Continue reading

When A Spouse Dies

This article is designed to aid readers who have lost a spouse to understand better what they are experiencing and how to handle the issues that may arise.

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Achieving Relationship Closeness

The objective of this article is to provide a discussion on the importance of intimacy as well as to pinpoint some barriers to achieving emotional closeness with others.

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

Achieving Relationship Closeness

Summary: Intimacy has been proven to be important in achieving and maintaining emotional and physical health. There are some barriers and patterns that prevent intimacy. Continue reading

Toward Achieving Sexual Harmony in Marriage

The objective of this article is to present information relating to sexual difficulties in marriage and how they may develop.

By: Susan Adams M.Ed.

Toward Achieving Sexual Harmony in Marriage

Summary: Sometimes sexual problems between couples are just that, they are sexual problems related to some kind of performance issue as in premature ejaculation and painful intercourse. Continue reading