Marriage
Marriage is a part of most Americans. Learning how to be married takes practice and acquired tools. I hope these articles help you and your partner.
Why Are Men So Sensitive To Female Anger?
Women ask me all the time,”why does my husband get so defensive when I get mad at him?”
To begin with, I don’t find anger to be a very useful emotion to be used with anyone. Possibly at times with strangers to get their attention but anger is scary for people and when you sound angry the real message gets lost.
What Makes Marriage Work?
People ask me all the time, “What makes marriage work?” What if I stop loving him/her?
What clearly does NOT make marriage work is believing that one must be in love all the time to make the marriage work. People who believe that love is the key ingredient are romantics, They are in love with love and the minute that they don’t detect the “love” feeling they believe it is time to go–and they do.
How To Select The Best Marriage Counselor
Good marriage counseling is about teaching couples how to negotiate in order to accomplish getting their needs met. Teaching good skills for marriage is not about what is right or wrong but about what works!
Marriage Counseling Should Be Balanced!
I have been married for 41 years (that means I was two when I started). I have a live laboratory in my home for knowing what works and what doesn’t. I am always thinking about how to pass along effective means of interacting. The best marriage counseling teaches couples how to talk to each other constructively . The couples therapist is the model for this. The therapy must be what I call ”clean”. That means the therapy needs to demonstrate the skills the therapist is teaching. For example listening with respect means that the therapist does so as well. Hearing what is asked needs to be part of the couples therapy as well. Continue reading
Skills of Understanding and Being Understood in Relationships
The objective of this article is to help dating couples understand how to make connections with each other in order to make long lasting relationships.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Skills of Understanding and Being Understood in Relationships
Summary: The first issue in building communication that works in your relationship is understanding its importance to having intimacy. Continue reading
Why Some People Fail to Make Emotional Contact in Dating
The objective of this article is to help people who fail to make emotional contact with others understand why that might be.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Why Some People Fail to Make Emotional Contact in Dating
Summary: Real communication is important but can be difficult to master. This is why, without it, some people circle the dating world forever without ever getting connected to anyone. Continue reading
Counseling Thoughts for Premarital Couples/Danger Signs in Dating
The objective of this article is to help dating couples who are thinking of marriage to identify some common danger signs in the relationship and to provide some guidance for treatment.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Counseling Thoughts for Premarital Couples/Danger Signs in Dating
Summary: Premarital counseling is a good emotional checkup and a wise investment as it increases the odds for a successful marriage. Continue reading
The Art of Feeling Married
The objective of this article is to point out some of the pitfalls involved in the breakup of marriages.
By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
The Art of Feeling Married
Summary: Back several generations the most important value in marriage was staying together. Continue reading
Special Concerns for Dating Couples Approaching Marriage
The objective of this article is to outline the issues that create the most anxiety in couples considering marriage.
By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.
Special Concerns for Dating Couples Approaching Marriage
Summary: What are the subjects on which communication is especially difficult for couples approaching marriage? There are several that can present major problems. Continue reading
The Practical Marital Quiz
Practical Marital Quiz
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- There is the Right person out there for everyone.
(no-marriage is based on a skill set between two people. Arranged marriages work well when the partners practice the skills of good marriages.)
- There is the Right person out there for everyone.
An After Effect of Sexual or Physical Abuse
The objective of this article is to help those who have experienced some kind of physical or sexual abuse to use some concrete tools for speaking up for themselves.
By: Susan Adams M.Ed.
An After Effect of Sexual or Physical Abuse
Many people who have experienced some form of child sexual or physical abuse have learned that it is dangerous to speak up for what they want. Continue reading
