Many people believe that marriage is about loving. They ask themselves, "am I still in love with my partner?", if the answer comes back in the negative, a divorce may be in the making.
In fact, marriage is not about feeling. It is a commitment. It is a decision to make things work. Further, love is a verb. Therefore, one must Do the things that carry the message that the partner matters.
The Main Cause Of Divorce - It Can Still Be Saved
In any case, it is the lie that breaks the bond of closeness because we tend to withdraw from the people we lie to. It isn’t the infidelity that breaks the marriage, it is the lying.
All it takes to get a divorce is to have disagreeable words with a partner and for someone to announce that they want a divorce. To preserve the marriage, the answer to this is “but I don’t”. The conversation may end there to be picked up at a later time, but just because someone invites you to a divorce, doesn’t mean you have to go.
Many adults believe that they don’t need marriage. This may be true. However, children in the family do. When the parents split, the children are left with a broken family. They experience emotional abandonment from which they never fully recover.
If there are no children, a “fender bender” can be established. The marriage breaks and many people go on to make the same mistakes again.
If there are children, it is important to understand that divorce doesn’t solve the problem. People with children simply move out of sharing space while continuing to deal with each other because they share children.
The leaving parent says ”at least I don’t have to deal with “him”.