How Can I Ever Trust Him/Her Again After Infidelity?

People call me all the time to ask me: “My husband/wife has been unfaithful. How can I stay in the relationship after such a betrayal? I can never trust my partner again.”

There is definitely a life after infidelity.  According to Dr. Frank Pittman (with whom I worked closely for twenty eight years), “Men cheat when they don’t feel man enough.”  He goes on to say  in  both Private Lies and Man Enough,  that a man’s infidelity is between himself and his father.”  How so, one might say.  It is the fault of the marriage.

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