In fact, very few of my clients wind up divorcing. Divorce hurts not only the partners but everyone connected to them, especially the children.
50% of children show symptoms at the time of the divorce. The other 50% go on and don’t become symptomatic until dating age when, what they tend to exhibit, is a fear of connecting to a significant other. The best that children learn from divorce is that no one loves another enough to stay.
What is important is that people learn the skills to stay together-not to live in misery, but to live lives that contain joy and commitment that make good models for children to follow. This is what I am teaching.
Sometimes people arrive in therapy too late to save the marriage. In that case, the goal is to help the parents to co-parent in ways that benefit the children, if there are any. This can be a challenge well considered before the divorce. People who aren’t good enough friends to stay married, have a hard time being good enough friends to be divorced with children. There exists more power in the marriage than out of it and once the dust settles and the initial amputation of pain occurs, there is often regret. Women tend to move on better than men. The children lose the most and the attorneys are the winners. I am always willing to help–to try to help parents balance households and share in parenting.
I am Susan Adams, licensed Marriage and Family therapist and licensed Professional Counselor, in private practice for over 35 years. My best credential is that I have been married for 41 years and have raised one daughter, numerous cousins, and am currently owned by two wonderful Boston Terriers.
Please call me before you call anywhere else in the Atlanta area, so that we can talk about what you should expect from your therapist and from therapy (404) 698-3699.
I look forward to speaking to you.
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Did you know that only HEALTHY people have the courage to question their situations and problems and look for solutions?
That means that already we know that if you are reading this, you are healthy.
Being “healthy” means that you can learn new information and apply it to problem-solving.
My approach provides clients with a clear understanding of the problem. Once the problem, in the marriage or in other kinds of relationships is identified,
I work with people through practical, behavioral, and value-based solutions that help to make their relationships work.
Please call me before you call anywhere else in the Atlanta area, so that we can talk about what you should expect from your therapist and from therapy (404) 698-3699. I look forward to speaking to you.
Family members don’t have to be a part of the problem when someone is having difficulty, but they are often part of the solution.
The work I do is solution-focused. No one ever leaves my office, even the first time, without some ideas as to how to begin to solve whatever problem brought them to see me.
Some People Self-medicate!
Many people know about anti-depressants. However, did you know that there are some non-medical ways to treat this problem that work quite well.
People often come to see me with problems with saying “no”, wanting to please others to an extreme, not liking themselves, and being unhappy with who they are or what they are doing in life.
I believe the first issue is to understand when these feeling began, for how long, and what has already been done about it.
Sometimes people arrive in therapy too late to save the marriage.
What is important is that people learn the skills to stay together-not to live in misery, but to live lives that contain joy and commitment that make good models for children to follow.
It can be painful and
heartbreaking to watch a loved one decline.
The alternatives of sudden loss may, in some ways, be easier on the survivors but the shock waves of sudden loss are equally tragic.
So, what makes the difference between normal and abnormal anxiety?
Some anxiety is good for us. It motivates us to do things that need doing.
Coupling and parenting become irresponsible.
Drugs and alcohol interfere with everyone’s relationships when either or both are present in families–alcohol in excess and drugs at all.
I think this word gets over-used without explicit understanding of “how” to say “what” to “whom”.
I am teaching people who see me the “foreign language” of how to speak to each other in ways that promote conversation instead of shutting it down.