Anger in Infidelity – But Don’t I Have a Right to My Anger?

Recently a woman contacted me about her husband’s infidelity. They had been doing prior work with a female therapist who encouraged her anger. She told the husband that his wife was understandably angry and he must be patient as she spewed it out.

Frankly, I found this to be very bad advice. Apparently, the couple did as well and fortunately left this experience. I have found over the years that people usually know when an experience is working badly and they leave it. Continue reading

Relationship Problems And What Do You Do?

People call me all the time asking me, “where are you located” or even first, “how much do you charge?”

Both questions are important. However, the MOST important question often isn’t asked which is “how can you help me”?

The first two questions imply that all therapy is the same and all therapists are the same. This could not be further from the truth.

There are many people in all kinds of professions who use buzz words to describe what they do while, in fact, not doing that manner of work at all.

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How Can I Ever Trust Him/Her Again After Infidelity?

People call me all the time to ask me: “My husband/wife has been unfaithful. How can I stay in the relationship after such a betrayal? I can never trust my partner again.”

There is definitely a life after infidelity.  According to Dr. Frank Pittman (with whom I worked closely for twenty eight years), “Men cheat when they don’t feel man enough.”  He goes on to say  in  both Private Lies and Man Enough,  that a man’s infidelity is between himself and his father.”  How so, one might say.  It is the fault of the marriage.

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Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

The objective of this article is to acquaint parents with the special hazards of tension for children that accompany divorce and some solutions for dealing with it.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Tensions for Children of Divorce | Dealing With Resulting Depression

Summary: Divorce causes much tension for children and fears of abandonment that parents, caught in the heat and misery of their own divorce, often miss. Continue reading

Developing New Relationships

You may be deciding to develop friendships because you have moved or your life has shifted. You may be newly single and feeling awkward after a lifetime that has followed a predictable pattern.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

Developing New Relationships

Whatever the case, you can be successful at building new relationships if you remember that people don’t fall “in love” or “in like” with other people. Continue reading

I’m Lonesome | Here is My Answer

It has become increasingly difficult to meet people.  This is particularly true for the part of the population who is looking for a significant other.

Men and women tell me all the time that they would like to be in a significant relationship. Possibly that they would like to marry and possibly have children.  However, society has changed so much that they don’t know how to go about it.

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How To Tell Children About A Divorce

It is important not to discuss divorce plans with children until the ultimate decision is reached. This means the break-up of their family and is usually a very difficult time.

By: Susan Adams, M. Ed.

How To Tell Children About A Divorce

The news should be broken with BOTH parents present. The news should occur a few weeks before the separation if possible so there is some advance warning. Continue reading

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